Wednesday, November 12, 2008

ideal match

After completion of 3 years in job, the next stage according to our society values should be marriage. Just like winning toss in a cricket match is important,selecting an ideal maych is equally important in order to win ur life's match (Of course I am talking about arranged marriages).
So many thoughts come in individual's mind when he/she imagine his/her future would be. But before that if you are a little bit matured you will think whether or not you are ready for this stage of life. At the same time it depends on individual's family by when they want this (marriage) to happen for their child. Whatever I am writing are my own thoughts and may vary from person to person. While starting screening process everybody should understand that you are not Amitabh Bacchhan and you should not expect Rekha for you.
According to me age for a man to get married should be 27 plus minus 1, and at the same time it will depend on so many factors like whether or not you are settled in life i.e. you are earning enough to manage your family, and should also have a bank balance to overcome any emergency need. Once you reach this state, screening of bio-data starts. It is quite sure you can not select any one from there only, but anyhow some of those manage to go to the next round of process. In the mean time his/her background check starts.
Individual's do not leave any stone unturned to find anything and everything about the other candidate, and for this they go and try to find that person on orkut, and explore his/her profile as much as you can to try to find out who his/her friends are, find about him with his/her testimonial, scraps, earnings,educational qualification, marks, about their family,smoking,eating and drinking habits,hobbies and all that stuff. After seeing each other and talking to each other for quite some time to figure out nature of that person, individual can try to evaluate his/her profile again.
Individual's might have there own priorities, but the main thing according to me is that other person should be loyal to you if both of you have decided to tie the knot. His/her ex affair will not matter if you are honest to each other and you value the current relationship. After all arranged marriage is a kind of lottery because it is quite difficult to judge anybody in 1-2 months.
According to me I will be ready for the marriage once I will start getting 50K in hand, should have 3-4 lakh bank balance. I don't want for my family to wait for my next month salary to fulfill or complete their wish list. When I am there to see the girl, she should be honest. This blog might seems to be quite jumbled, but I hope I managed to communicate my idea. In the end I can only say that a bird in hand is better than two in bush, as to find out a better match you might waste time as well as you might also not get a better partner.

2 comments:

Ritu said...
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Ritu said...

Dear Pankaj........while writing this blog.....you have really been too true n genuine.these thoughts really touch the real life ground.....I could never think that you r so mature to think about this realtion like this.

u r too gud dost.........